Closes #428

In preparation for child eventbusses being removed, anything
trying to subscribe to specific windows now needs an explicit
check.

In the process, fixed two issues:

- channel who plugin was sending way too many requests - each
  connection was querying every channel in the client. i.e.,
  with 5 servers open there'd be 5 WHOs per channel...

- ServerFrame stops itself listening when *any* frame is closed.
  So closing a channel window then reconnecting wouldn't offer
  an SSL dialog, because it's already unbound the listener.

Issue DMDirc/DMDirc#662