dependency upgrades for v2.12 release cycle

recommended default: advertise SCRAM

fix #2031

round wait times to the nearest millisecond

Sanitize the in-band error message from REHASH

Fixes #1782

make ReloadableListener lock-free

Also stop attaching the *tls.Config to the wrapped connection,
since this forces it to be retained beyond its natural lifetime.

Fix #2023 (disable dynamic linking by default)

Disable dynamic linking by default.

final updates for v2.11.0-rc1

Fix SAREGISTER short help in SAVERIFY command

* draft changelog for v2.11.0-rc1

* add another entry

* copyedits

change default casefolding to ascii

See discussion on #1718

Provide a nondestructive stack trace dump option even when the http pprof
listener is disabled

TAGMSG should not get automatic RPL_AWAY replies

document that persistent history is not affected by buffer limits

fix #1850

Add WHO responses for services

re-add draft/CHATHISTORY 005

Kiwi expects it due to https://github.com/kiwiirc/kiwiirc/pull/1244 , but
the corresponding spec change only altered the cap name, not the 005 name.

fix CHATHISTORY 005 token name

Unclear where we got draft/CHATHISTORY from, it looks like the merged drafts
have always used unprefixed CHATHISTORY as the token name.

* fix #2002

`CS AMODE #channel +f nickname` is invalid, but was being accepted
incorrectly.

* simplify logic

Use ratified extended-monitor cap name