This moves channel registration to an eventual consistency model,
where the in-memory datastructures (Channel and ChannelManager)
are the exclusive source of truth, and updates to them get persisted
asynchronously to the DB.

Rename getters in conformance with the "Effective Go" styleguide recommendation:
https://golang.org/doc/effective_go.html#Getters

It's not really used and I'd rather not have it here unless I'm able to actively maintain it properly and build out the web interface.

I might re-add it later but for now I'd rather not have it unless anyone's actively using it.

support for PROXY was removed in 43e28e2fef. After discussion,
it's worth keeping around in case of client compatibility issues,
and until /rehash support is more mature.

Don't close and reopen listeners

This prevents a deadlock:

1. rehash() is executing on the main goroutine
2. it's trying to stop a listener goroutine
3. the listener goroutine needs to hand off a new connection to newConns
4. but the main goroutine is blocked by rehash() so it can't receive it

See #134; there was a `fatal error: concurrent map read and map write`
due to unsynchronized accesses to `Server.listeners`. Now, `listeners`
is only accessed by `NewServer` and `rehash`, so it doesn't need
synchronization.